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Last night I watched Vicky Cristina Barcelona (2008) and I loved the way Javier Bardem touched Scarlett Johansson’s face before he kissed her. 

It made me think about the tease before the kiss.  Above is how you can fry her brain.

I think I posted this before in GIF’s I made on my phone on this blog before.  I know I posted it on my Tumblr but with over 4,000 posts… it would be hard to find.  Anyways.  Just goofing around on YouTube and I found the opening scene to Junebug which I loved.  For some reason… just love this scene where they meet for the first time and after the art gallery is closed… they kiss for the first time.  I just love the playfulness of them and the tease.  I will add the video soon to this post.


It’s only 4 minutes long.

Devour Them | Make Your Mark On Them | Kiss Them | Show Them


I feel strongly that you need to kiss someone passionately and you always have to think about how you can show them that is different and the memory is lasting.  You need to change up the routine.  I call it “shock and awe” and you have to capture someone’s attention and really kiss them.  Use your hands.  Let them know you want them.

Stop them dead in their tracks.


You need to surprise them in the shower.


You need to kiss them on top of the dining room table.


You need to kiss them at red lights in the car.

You need to turn off the burner and grab and kiss them in the kitchen and kiss them when they can’t see you.

My mind is blown at how wonderful it is to kiss someone you just can’t wait to see and be with.

Tell Her

When she is moving around the kitchen getting some stuff ready to cook something… pick her up and put her on the counter.


tell her.

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Tell her again.  Kiss her.

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Tell her what she does to your insides.  How she makes you feel.  Tell her the smallest thing that she does that you love.  Tell her where you want to go with her to explore.  Tell her you want to make a dinner together and listen to music and drink wine on the floor next Friday in the living room.  Tell her the last time that you wanted her so bad and you didn’t act on it.  Tell her where you were with her and see if she remembers that exact moment.

Don’t forget to kiss her on that counter tho 😉

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Sit beside her at dinner and not across from her if you can.  Hold her hand.  Hold the top of her leg and talk to her intimately.  Tell her in public when your inches away from her ear.

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Tell her when she is across from you and does not matter where you are.  Just tell her now and then.  Even if you think she knows.  Just tell her again.

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be the man you want to be < > be different < > if you have a fresh start in life with someone new < > express yourself and your feelings < > tell her < > never assume she knows < > bookmark your thoughts and plans to surprise her and keep her on her toes < > sometimes “shock + awe” is needed and look for things that inspire you to be different and have those “well that escalated quickly” moments 😉  anywhere + anytime.

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never settle

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inspire her to keep you on your toes

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follow the front + the back of the “Rules Of A Gentleman” and life will be good.  It’s all you can do is do your part and what happens… happens.

When Sex Becomes A Production

“When sex becomes a production or performance that is when it loses its value. Be mutual. Be loud. Be clumsy. Make noises, be quiet, and make a mess. Bite, scratch, push, pull, hold, thrust. Remove pressure from the moment. Love the moment. Embrace it. Enjoy your body; enjoy your partners’ body. Produce sweat, be natural, entice your senses, give into pleasure. Bump heads, miss when you kiss, laugh when it happens. Speak words, speak with your body, speak to their soul. Touch their skin, kiss their goose bumps, and play with their hair. Scream, beg, whimper, sigh, let your toes curl, lose yourself. Chase your breath; keep the lights on, watch their eyes when they explode. Forget worrying about extra skin, sizes of parts and things that are meaningless. Save the expectations, take each second as it comes. Smear your make up, mess up your hair, rid your masculinity, and lose your ego. Detonate together, collapse together, and melt into each other.”  – taken from a tumblr post I re-blogged a long time ago


This came on my dash as words yesterday. I love it. I need it as a small paragraph on the back of a t-shirt with a cool font so people waiting in line at the grocery store can read it silently as they hold their coupon and their cereal.  (my thoughts)


Making Love Through The Dance


This dance is all about the embrace.  The Argentine Tango.  Stunning.  I fell in love with the song on the second time watching it.  I watched the video 5 times in the night and downloaded the song from OK GO.  It’s called Skycrapers.


It’s so sexy.


moments i love:

0:16 – the embrace + how she moves her arm around his back.

0:27 – sexy as hell.  legs.  dress.  bottom.

1:34 – how he spins her and walks in the circle to spin her.

1:44 – how she wraps her one leg between his

1:55 – this dress.  the pleats.  the dress.

2:57 – and then this dress.  the sides.  the back.  the split down the side.

3:12 – her arms up and back down behind him.  love the way she moves.

what’s wrong with me.  i need to get out more.  i also need to learn how to dance.

watching them walk backwards together is the closest thing to making love when dancing when you find someone with the perfect rhythm.


A sweet woman highlighted this dance below and it also blew me away.  So freaking sexy.  


Open Letter To My 18 Year Old Self


July 15th, 2015

Dear Speed,

Hey!  Pay attention.

It’s July 15th, 1989 and you just walked your future wife home to her parents house.  Yes, you end up getting married to your high school sweetheart that you just shared your first intimate kiss a couple of weeks ago on May 23rd after school that left you breathless and you don’t remember your feet touching the ground as you walked home grinning.  More on that later dude.

I have many things to tell you and I want you to listen and take some advice from an older version of yourself shown above.  That shot was taken in 2013 when you were 43 years old.  This is the last one before you started shaving your head.  I know you like your hair now but later in life it will start to be more like our Dad’s.

I know you won’t take all of my advice and making mistakes in life is part of the process.  You will make many in your lifetime.  Everyone else around you does.  Along the way, you will hurt people you care about and you will understand that you can’t go back in life to say goodbye to people you love when they leave you suddenly.


Let’s talk about the present.  1989.  Right now you are 18 years old and weigh a buck sixty-five and your waist is 34.  You live at home with your parents.   You can’t dance worth shit and have no rhythm.  You have made up your mind to go to Ajax High next year before High School ends.  At DO’C you started to feel more accepted and you feel better about your appearance.  Good job on the desert boots buddy 😉


A couple of months ago you finally told Karen, the girl that liked you in Grade 7 that you liked her back.  She is your world now and you are already in love with her since you were strong friends that know everything about each other.  I’ll fast forward to 2015 and you still love her since you have shared so much of your life together but things are different now.  Your life is so different and you have never felt so disconnected and alone but you are more thankful for the little things you have.  More on that later.


Right now, I want to talk about a couple of things and ramble a little.  You never really have this opportunity to talk to your younger self.

I wish I could go back a little farther and tell you to pay attention in French class and to study the language so you can speak two different languages.  If you did, you would make more money which is not super important in life but I think it would have changed the outcome of your life and who knows… maybe your marriage.


Right now, you have not really dated anyone.  Patricia didn’t count and Stacey was a summer with your hands running wild on each other.  You have not grown older and matured like I have and you are so young you have not had a chance to really look back and reflect on life.  You are not a deep thinker and your just moving through day by day.

If you could go back to the summer of 1988 you will not be able to realize that your “what if” girl is on the edge of your life.  You don’t see her as that person.  I can’t make you go back in time and I don’t want you spoil anything now with Karen… but over your life she will pop into your mind and make you wonder.

If you could go back one year… I would want you to go back to the summer before and walk across Harwood Ave to the other townhouses on the other side and knock on the other redheads door.  The one with the freckles.  Tell her that you want to go for a walk with her.  Then, I would want you to walk down to the lake with her and stop her dead in her tracks and kiss her on the path when she is mid sentence about something.  Just get the guts and plan your precise move and just do it.  Make her forget the world for 24 seconds.

If you could do that for me… you will help me get that “what if” out of my system.  Then you would not think about what it would be like to kiss her all your life.  Don’t worry Dan…  you will be fine in your relationship with Karen and into your marriage and you won’t stray and be faithful to her.

Over your lifetime you will have three “what if” women in your life and two of those will be after your marriage ends.  (Yes.  It ends, but when it does…  your life will begin again.  So don’t worry)  These two women enter your life at the wrong time in your life and they can’t grow and develop.  So I need to tell you about things to make your life better and more ways to keep relationships and be more appreciative through communication and actions.  You can never control if the other person will like you back as much as you like them.  All you can do is be “YOU” and do the right things and if they stay they will appreciate the person you are and what you bring into their life.


First let’s start with some house keeping issues and things to remember and work on:

The couple dirty magazines that you bought at L&L gift shop when you were in grade 11 at 10:30pm after you have to wait till everyone was out of the store is not worth it.  Your Mom will find them in the briefcase in your closet and the thought about her knowing will be far worse than the 4 minutes of pleasure looking at them 😉

Hang out with your Dad more.  When he comes home from work and goes downstairs to watch TV.  Don’t just come in and go upstairs right away.  Go sit with him and hang out.  Even if you don’t talk.  Just hang out and watch “The National” with him and talk more.  They will retire and move to Nova Scotia so you need to spend as much time as you can with them before they go east.

Appreciate more what your Mother does for you.  She cleans your room and makes you all the food you can eat.  She slips you money all the time so you can go out and do things.  I know your nice to her but hug her more.  Mom’s like that and you don’t understand that they like that stuff… so now and then.  Give her a hug and tell you that you love her.  Take the time to slow down and talk to her.  Kiss her on the cheek as much as you can.

Call your Brother on the phone since he doesn’t live in the house.  You wasted so much time and you hardly know him.  More on that later.  You will regret this the most… so do this right now!  You can’t go back in time.

– Don’t knock it till you tried it.  I know you have a silly expression that you won’t eat anything you can’t spell.  But you need to try new foods and get used to different foreign cuisines.  The food is incredible. 

– If a street performer makes you stop and watch you owe them a buck.  Don’t be cheap.  Also don’t be shy with panhandlers.  Go buy them a coffee and bring it to them.  You always act like your busy and you don’t notice them.  I know you do.

– You only get one chance to notice a haircut so notice the small things and complement the people around you.  Notice them and acknowledge it in their presence.  Women think different than us and it bugs the shit out of them if you don’t say something right away.

– Always buy good shoes.  When you are older than always buy good sheets and pillows.  But now… always buy nice kicks.  People notice them and you will feel good in them.

– Eat lunch at school with the new kids.  Meet new people and when you are older try not to eat lunch at your desk and eat with other people and get to know them better and be more attentive to the people around you.  Since your going to Ajax next year there are so many new people to meet and get to know.  Don’t be shy and challenge yourself to interact with everyone.

– It’s never too late to apologize to someone.  Damn.  I’m typing this to you and I need to do some apologizing to people. Be sincere and acknowledge when and how you let them down.  Some people might not forgive you but you need to live with yourself and you have to put yourself in front of them in person if you can and apologize to them.


– Protect the people that are absent.  It’s going to be in a book you read in 2004 at work later in life and this is so important and also very hard to police yourself.  If you are around people and they are talking about someone else… stand up and protect the person they are talking about that the people are talking behind their back.  Try not and talk about other people behind their back yourself.  If you mind your own business you will live a more peaceful life in your mind and also it will show yourself better in front of those people and they will respect you more.

– Look people in the eyes when you thank them and try and do a better job at remembering names.  You suck at this so you need to practice.

– Always take the time to thank the host and search them out and thank them personally.  Also write more personal small handwritten notes to thank people and send them promptly.

– Be a good listener and try and not think of the next rebuttal as the person is talking.  This will help you in marriage and with women.

– Practice those Kegel exercises you are reading about in Men’s Health.  They will come in handy.

– When you start working in the investment field downtown Toronto later in life buy some stock in a company called Apple and buy as much as you can and afford.  You can thank me later.

– Buy all the orange properties in Monopoly.

– Smile at strangers.  You might cheer them up just a little.  Everyone has battles they are facing and as you get older people will have more battles.

That’s all the little bullet comments I can think of right now.  Let’s go back to the topic that will consume you in much of your life ahead.


More about the young girl who is your best friend that your suddenly kissing and want to spend every single freaking minute with.  😉

Let me give you a little teaser for you below:

Congratulations!  You got her.  She is the “one”.  You told her that you liked her and caught her off guard.  Right now you are together all the time which you think is good but you need to set a trend early and keep that going the rest of your life.  I know that I’m telling you to keep a balance and don’t spend every minute together.  The trend is that you need to start is to be independent.  You need to be alone to get things done for you.  You still need to see your friends like Nose.  You need to keep playing basketball with your buddies.  You also need to make her independent and for her to keep her relationships with her high school friends that she will drop cold as soon as school ends next year.

I know I’m telling you things and you won’t listen but trust me.  YOU NEED TO SET A TREND.  So as you move through life with her she needs to be used to you being with her and showing that she is a priority in your life but you also need to be doing stuff with your friends.  If you don’t she will resent anytime that you want to do something with friends and she will control you and make you feel guilty.  Later in life when your friends tell you that she has you “whipped” and you try and laugh it off.  You will know it’s the truth.  Don’t worry.  You will be happy overall in your life.  You will just regret not starting that trend so it lasts through your relationship and when you spend time away from her… it will feel “normal” to her.


She will also get more beautiful with age.

You will have many good times together and grow as people.  You will finally have two beautiful kids together after loosing the first one before you are married.  I don’t want to tell you to much of the future, but your Daughter will be such a sweet soul.  Then when you think that it should just be three of you in your family, you decide to try and have another child and you get your Son.  Another gentle soul and your two kids will help you push through life.

You will be together for 23 years.  You will be genuinely happy.  Since you have two kids you can confidently say that you had sex twice in your 23 years together.  All I want to say is don’t settle for a sexless marriage.  It’s wonderful and so important.  Being intimate together is what makes us feel alive and being wanted in life by your partner is so important.  You need to communicate your feelings to her.  You need to be with someone that wants to be with you in that way.  You need to have someone you can kiss passionately and you need someone to lie naked in the afternoon and dream about the world and hold each other.

BECAUSE… Before you know it… she will suddenly approach you one afternoon in your 23rd year together she will tell you that her and her parents have decided that she will take the kids and move into to her parents house.  After that afternoon you will never to ask her why.  You will never have a meaningful talk about anything with her after that sentence out of her mouth.


Then you will find the Rules Of A Gentleman online and the front and the back are so important in life and you promise to not settle in the future.  You promise yourself to keep someone on their toes by following the back and you will try and attract them by following the front.  Your main” tumblr will outline things you want and miss while micro-documenting life.  Your private one will also help you bookmark the reminders of what you have missed and the healthy and much needed deeper connection we all need in relationships through intimacy.  Bottom line.  Make a fucking effort for the other person and follow the Rules Of A Gentleman.  It’s a good start to hopefully a long lasting relationship.


You will meet the most sensual woman you have ever been with in 2014 and you will have the most craziest sex in your life and wished you had it like that when you were married.  You will plan out how to seduce this woman to keep her on her toes and keep her guessing.  You will think about the next time after you say goodbye to her.  She will do the same for you and she will surprise you also.  It will hit you that you have only spent periodic moments with this woman and you have had more intimate moments with her over the period of 8 months than you will have in 23 years with the woman you have now.  That’s just not right.  So you need to have that that commitment to the other person and they also need to have it with you.  Don’t settle.  I can’t type it out here but I will funnel it to you somehow through this little symbol using the keyboard   (y)

So put your mouse over it and all the thoughts and ideas will flow to you and enjoy.  So when you get fixed after your second child you can really enjoy your time together anytime the mood strikes and not be just a sperm donor a couple of years later after your first child is born.


You really need to eat clean and eat proper portions.  You need to lift a little weights and keep yourself in good condition.  Nobody lives a perfect life but you will feel better about yourself and be more confident as you get older.  You need to be healthy and strong.  You don’t have to be perfect but the more commitment towards yourself will help.  That’s all you can do.

1-tumblr_ne1bl49XiE1qdftleo1_500Lessons.  You will learn lessons.  I was going to type to you and talk about Alison and I won’t.  If you can promise me one thing is this.  When you update your “Relationship Status” on something called Facebook when your marriage ends and change “Married” to “It’s Complicated” and Alison messages you right away asking to go out for coffee.  Just go out and have one with her.  Wish her well and don’t have another coffee with her.  Don’t!  Please don’t!!!

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Let’s talk about our Mother.  She is simple and sweet as you know.  She is so much older than you and people on this earth will not last forever.  My simple advice is to call her all the time when she moves away.  You will regret that if you don’t.  One day she will be in your life and the other she will be gone.  That’s all I’m going to say.  Call your Mother when she retires.  Technology will help in the future with talking to people through the internet and you can see them with a video camera on your computer.  Just call Mom as much as you can.

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Now for your Brother who will pass away of Liver Cancer a couple of months from now.  I know with the 18 years difference between you that you looked up to him more of an Uncle since when you were little and could remember things he was already living on his own so he was more of an Uncle you would go visit during the year.  Cancer is something that strips away your physical shell as well as your insides and you were not around to watch him disappear from his normal healthy self.  You were not living close to him so you could not be in his presence and for that you will be forever guilty for not asking someone to drive you to him so you could have hung out with him so you could spend a long amount of time together to truly get to know him.  So after you read this.  You need to go and see him and stay with him for a while and hang out.  Let me share things and memories of his life and our parents lives when I was not even born yet.  You also need to call him.  I know he didn’t want to depress you with his condition and burden your mind with what he is going through.  You just need to call him and make the most of the days you have together till Cancer takes him from the family.  This will haunt you if you don’t.  It’s haunted me.  He died at 36 years old and I’m writing this when I’m in my mid 40’s and it’s just not right.

Appreciate everyone and be thankful for all the opportunities when your in the presence of them.  You never know what tomorrow brings and if you will have a chance to speak with them and see them again.


Before I let you go and live life your way and hopefully with some guidance from your older self.  Let me do some more bullet points of some things off the top of my head:

– Don’t focus on what the Wilson’s across the street are doing with their lives.  People around you will seem like they have it all together.  You have no idea what is happening behind closed doors.  Just because they drive a BMW does not mean they own the car.  They just own the bumper and you can own the bumper too and make payments.  Don’t be focused on what others have.  Just be grateful for what you have… no matter how little or small.

– Learn to be a “Plan B” person.  So when Plan A doesn’t happen don’t let it bother you and you get worked up in negative energy.  Just use that time to focus on “Plan B” and do something else and don’t waste the day spinning your wheels and bent out of shape about how “Plan A” didn’t happen or work out they way it was supposed to.

– Forgive people who make valid apologies.  Really forgive them.  It will help both of you.

– Eating is wonderful, delicious, joyous, experimental, strengthening, nourishing and sociable.

– Write love letters.

– Listen to people who are sad, and really hear them.  Make an effort to understand them and empathize with the way they are feeling.  Help them in ways you would like to be helped.

– If you love someone, tell them.  You might not get another opportunity, and you should never let yourself live with a “what if”.

– Travel whenever you can.  It is important, exciting, invaluable and liberating to explore the world and cultures.

– Live life for yourself.  Learn to say “yes” and learn to say “no”.

– Discover new and great music.  Not all music is just on the 3 radio stations you flip through.  Get an ipod and create playlists of music that helps you with moods and helps you with motivation, thought and reflection.

– Document life to leave a legacy of moments when your not on this earth anymore.  Your Brother will pass away of Cancer and when you look back you will notice you don’t really have video or too many pictures.  As technology develops it will allow you to capture sound and video and you can cherish the sound and movement of the people you love.

– Take pictures of yourself even if you don’t like how you look or you think in your head that you will take more pictures when you loose weight and look better.  You never know when a Bus might take you out on the street so you need to have pictures that others can see you.  It’s great to take 1,000 pictures of your kids but if you don’t have any pictures with you and your kids in the same picture they won’t have any of you in the future.

– Be interested in other peoples lives and that will be worth more than tying to make people interested in yours.

– Try and fall in love with someones naked soul before their naked body.

– A fast nickle is better than a slow dime.  (always loved that saying)

– Find gratitude in small everyday things.  I have been at the lowest point of my life and somehow I was happy.  I had nothing.  Bitterly nothing.  I would love to explain what I was going through but if it happens to you… then just embrace it and see the positive inside the “not so great” stuff your battling through and going through.

– Dress up warm and play in the snow.  Try and embrace the cold of the winter.

– You don’t need a reason to help people.  You don’t have to know them also.

– Start drinking red wine now so you can understand how good it tastes.

– Drive different roads to get places and look out the window more as you pass the countryside.  It’s also ok to turn the car around when you pass something interesting instead of saying in your mind that you passed it and you can’t turn around now.  It will take you 47 seconds to turn around.

– Stopping a car when your driving somewhere to make love in the back seat is underrated.  Daytime or nighttime.

– The happiness of life depends on the quality of your thoughts.  Dream + plan while reflecting.


I know I’m trying to say everything in the world to you.  Just do things that makes you happy.  If you try and live a good life and be a good person you will genuinely make the people around you happy.  There will always be bumps in the road.  Without them and having all the roads straight with short cuts will not make you appreciate the twists and turns in the journey.

I love the saying “Live Forever And Die In The Attempt”.  You need to do this and be true and happy.  Apologize if you make mistakes and be a good person to yourself, the people you care about and love and never stop laughing and exploring.

Maybe 20 years from now I will write to you again and help you out for the last part of your life.

Enjoy life!