Posts Tagged ‘Relationships’

Capturing Love & The Connection | Love Letters | A Married Couple w/ Kids Connects Again

Monday, May 5th, 2014

The photography is beautiful and captures this couple perfectly.  Gabe McClintock Photography captures this couple.  Below is the blog post from Gabe.  I’m in love with his photography.  Inspiring.  Ewan and Brianna are also great photographers and I enjoy following their life and story and the work they put out.  I enjoyed listening to a podcast where they were interviewed and it allowed more a look into their lives as a couple, family and doing photography full-time as a couple.  I had to share Gabe’s post below to show how love between two people can be captured.  Also the words each of them wrote to each other.  Gabe your work is inspiring.

Which all couple need to do more.  It’s good to sit down and write to the other person.

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sometimes these are the words we need to hear. maybe not everyday. maybe not every week or even every month. but at some point we need to hear them. sometimes we need to be reminded what it was that made this partnership work.

we need to reconnect.

life has a funny way of bringing two people together and then it is life itself that sometimes gets in the way. the life of work. the life of kids. the everyday stresses that life hands us at times feels like a giant spike that with each passing moment pushes down deeper and at times it is what drives couples apart.

this is why we need to reconnect. we need small reminders and at times we need big reminders. words written from the heart. raw and honest words to the one you’ve created this life with. the one you love. these are images and words that you can look back on when it is life itself that feels like it’s getting in the way.

these words will remind you. these words will reconnect you.

i asked them to write something. something about each other. to each other. what ever they wanted. no rules. no guidelines. just words from the heart. they have no idea what the other wrote and are reading each others words here for the first time. thank you so much to these two amazing people for allowing all of us to read their incredibly raw and honest words to each other.

this is a {re}connection session.

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Ewan…You loved me at my darkest. The moments where I was cruel. Nasty. Horrible. Mean. Sick. And a million other things that no wife should be. We fought. We said things that we couldn’t take back. Yet still we loved. We bared our naked souls. We were defeated. Beaten down. Broken. I knew that we would be okay. Just not that day. Or maybe even the next one. It was a day that I thought I wanted to forget. Erase from my memory like it simply didn’t happen. But as the night turned into morning I knew it was one that I always wanted to remember. Our scars, reminding us that we are bigger than the things that have tried to hurt us. That we may be marked, but that we will always stand together and fight. For each other. And we had to fight like hell. But that battle is what made us who we are. I never want to forget. Our love is messy. Our love is chaos. Our love is raw. And pure. And real. I can’t say it’s been easy because at times it’s been fucking hard. But it’s always been worth it. Every single second. Because you are my world. My everything. And all of the cliches in romance novels you find in the grocery store check out line. Except, our love is anything from cliche. We threw out all the sappy fairy tales and made our own. We rewrote what love means. You are my home. My constant. My best friend. My everything. Without you I would wander the world lost. Searching for the place where I know I’m meant to be. I will die an old woman still as madly in love with you as the day we met. Even more. My love for you does not change. Life may sometimes get messy. Try to pull us apart. Or be downright chaotic. But until the day I die, you will always be my home. You are my love. I love you. Forever. Xo

 

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Brianna…When I think about the moments where I am reminded that I love you. The moments that I think back to, and see how much I love you. They aren’t the good moments. They aren’t the happy ones. It isn’t the trip that we took together that we loved, or the success that we shared together, or buying our first home, or having our girls. Those aren’t what I think about when I think about our love. When I think about what reminds me of how gut wrenching it is to need you in my life. It is the bad moments. The moments where we reached the edge of our relationship. The moments where tears turned to cries, turned to sobs, and we just laid there together in our bed holding hands. Because it was when we were in that pit together. The one that we tried to climb out of, always falling back into. Sometimes even choosing to sit at the bottom of. That is where we truly loved each other. Because there wasn’t happiness attached to those moments. There wasn’t infatuation. There wasn’t sex tricking us into thinking everything was okay. There wasn’t this idea that we were destined to be together or that we were soul mates (you know I don’t believe in any of that). There was us, at our lowest. And I remember saying to you, “Sometimes it’s so hard. So fucking hard to care. Because it’s easier to shut down. Hide away. Find solace in being alone. But then I wake up, and I see you. And I fucking love you. And I can’t do it without you. I don’t want to.” And even as I write this, with tears in my eyes. I remember that moment. Where our love became so much bigger than the accumulation of all of the combined moments in our lives. Bigger than any idea of what it meant to be married. To be in love. It became eternal. It became my reason for being. Because life stopped being about my horrible childhood. It stopped being about my insecurities. It stopped being about feeling alone. Life became about us. You are it for me. And I can’t live without you. So when we are 90 and 92, let’s go together. Holding hands like we did that night in our bed. Telling each other “I love you. You’re my reason.” I love. Forever. xo

vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
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vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
What an incredible shoot where the set really focuses on the couple’s feelings and body language.  Just love this set.

10 Habits Of Happy Couples | Truth | Everyone Needs To Practice

Sunday, February 2nd, 2014

1-taken tumblr5-001Sam posted this on Facebook.  It’s worth a post and great tips.

1. Go to bed at the same time
Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love? Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps. And when their skins touch it still causes each of them to tingle unless one or both are too completely exhausted to feel sexually excited.

2. Cultivate common interests
After the passion settles down, it’s common to realize that you have few interests in common. But don’t minimize the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them. At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting to your mate and prevent you from appearing too dependent.

3. Walk hand in hand or side by side
Rather than one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably hand in hand or side by side. They know it’s more important to be with their partner than to see the sights along the way.

4. Make trust and  forgiveness your default mode
If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.

5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong
If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too. It all depends on what you want to look for. Happy couples accentuate the positive.

6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work
Our skin has a  memory of “good touch” (loved), “bad touch” (abused) and “no touch” (neglected). Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the “good touch,” which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world.

7. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning
This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other annoyances.

8. Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel
This tells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single upsetting incident.

9. Do a “weather” check during the day
Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync when you connect after work. For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him or her to be enthusiastic about something good that happened to you.

10. Be proud to be seen with your partner
Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and are often in some kind of affectionate contact — hand on hand or hand on shoulder or knee or back of neck. They are not showing off but rather just saying that they belong with each other.

Love Is | Casey Niestat + His Girl… Candice | Married x2

Saturday, January 4th, 2014

There are many types of love with different strength inside different relationships that may have dynamics that are close to yours you have now or in the past or could be completely different than Casey + Candice.

They are together again.

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It makes me happy.  It’s hard to describe but I only know them through social media and through Casey’s video’s on YouTube.  I admire Casey and how he lives his life.

I love how he documents so many things about his life.  It’s 12:20am and I’m going to watch his little video he made about her and how he was trying to save his relationship with her.  They have had their ups and down’s.

Here is a shorter video of a little weekend away to K-Land on the West Coast.

Here is another video of him surprising her in South Africa on New Year’s Eve on a whim and showing up at her parents house to surprise her.

I want to make some short films like how Casey does.  I want “Final Cut Pro” on my computer to edit them.  He inspired me to shoot more video of my kids and my daily life.  I need to do more of this.

My Candice is gone.  That’s ok.  I can accept that.