Posts Tagged ‘Relationships’

When Sex Becomes A Production

Wednesday, June 15th, 2016

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“When sex becomes a production or performance that is when it loses its value. Be mutual. Be loud. Be clumsy. Make noises, be quiet, and make a mess. Bite, scratch, push, pull, hold, thrust. Remove pressure from the moment. Love the moment. Embrace it. Enjoy your body; enjoy your partners’ body. Produce sweat, be natural, entice your senses, give into pleasure. Bump heads, miss when you kiss, laugh when it happens. Speak words, speak with your body, speak to their soul. Touch their skin, kiss their goose bumps, and play with their hair. Scream, beg, whimper, sigh, let your toes curl, lose yourself. Chase your breath; keep the lights on, watch their eyes when they explode. Forget worrying about extra skin, sizes of parts and things that are meaningless. Save the expectations, take each second as it comes. Smear your make up, mess up your hair, rid your masculinity, and lose your ego. Detonate together, collapse together, and melt into each other.”  – taken from a tumblr post I re-blogged a long time ago

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This came on my dash as words yesterday. I love it. I need it as a small paragraph on the back of a t-shirt with a cool font so people waiting in line at the grocery store can read it silently as they hold their coupon and their cereal.  (my thoughts)

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Devour Them | Make Your Mark On Them | Kiss Them | Show Them

Thursday, May 26th, 2016

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I feel strongly that you need to kiss someone passionately and you always have to think about how you can show them that is different and the memory is lasting.  You need to change up the routine.  I call it “shock and awe” and you have to capture someone’s attention and really kiss them.  Use your hands.  Let them know you want them.

Stop them dead in their tracks.

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You need to surprise them in the shower.

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You need to kiss them on top of the dining room table.

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You need to kiss them at red lights in the car.

You need to turn off the burner and grab and kiss them in the kitchen and kiss them when they can’t see you.

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My mind is blown at how wonderful it is to kiss someone you just can’t wait to see and be with.

Tell Her

Friday, February 26th, 2016

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When she is moving around the kitchen getting some stuff ready to cook something… pick her up and put her on the counter.

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tell her.

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Tell her again.  Kiss her.

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Tell her what she does to your insides.  How she makes you feel.  Tell her the smallest thing that she does that you love.  Tell her where you want to go with her to explore.  Tell her you want to make a dinner together and listen to music and drink wine on the floor next Friday in the living room.  Tell her the last time that you wanted her so bad and you didn’t act on it.  Tell her where you were with her and see if she remembers that exact moment.

Don’t forget to kiss her on that counter tho 😉

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Sit beside her at dinner and not across from her if you can.  Hold her hand.  Hold the top of her leg and talk to her intimately.  Tell her in public when your inches away from her ear.

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Tell her when she is across from you and does not matter where you are.  Just tell her now and then.  Even if you think she knows.  Just tell her again.

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be the man you want to be < > be different < > if you have a fresh start in life with someone new < > express yourself and your feelings < > tell her < > never assume she knows < > bookmark your thoughts and plans to surprise her and keep her on her toes < > sometimes “shock + awe” is needed and look for things that inspire you to be different and have those “well that escalated quickly” moments 😉  anywhere + anytime.

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never settle

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inspire her to keep you on your toes

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follow the front + the back of the “Rules Of A Gentleman” and life will be good.  It’s all you can do is do your part and what happens… happens.

Rules Of A Gentleman | The Front + The Back | Tips To Find + Keep A Woman

Tuesday, March 3rd, 2015

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I wanted to post something I came across about 3 years ago.

I noticed a post on Tumblr that someone posted.  It listed the “Rules Of A Gentleman” on the front and it also listed it on the back some other ones.  I re-blogged it on my Tumblr (HERE I remember posting it on my tumblr and wishing that nobody that knew me would read them.

The rules on the back were a little different than the front.  (read them if you want) I did not write them I just noticed it on Tumblr and wanted to reblog it.

My comments after reading the rules on the back were:  “I think if all men would follow the front first… you will attract the right women for you and if you follow the back of the card… life will be good and exciting and worth waiting for the next day and night.”

Everyone should have them inside a double sided frame hanging on your bathroom wall so that you can flip over and read the back if you know it exists and be reminded.  I have a double sided frame. 😉

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What If You Had An 8th Day In The Week? | What Would You Do?

Monday, August 25th, 2014

 

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What would you do?  Would you do more?  Would you do less on that day?  Would you spend it alone or would you try and connect with people you don’t talk to or keep it for the people really close to you?

Very interesting little film.

EVERYDAY from Gustav Johansson on Vimeo.

Capturing Love & The Connection | Love Letters | A Married Couple w/ Kids Connects Again

Monday, May 5th, 2014

The photography is beautiful and captures this couple perfectly.  Gabe McClintock Photography captures this couple.  Below is the blog post from Gabe.  I’m in love with his photography.  Inspiring.  Ewan and Brianna are also great photographers and I enjoy following their life and story and the work they put out.  I enjoyed listening to a podcast where they were interviewed and it allowed more a look into their lives as a couple, family and doing photography full-time as a couple.  I had to share Gabe’s post below to show how love between two people can be captured.  Also the words each of them wrote to each other.  Gabe your work is inspiring.

Which all couple need to do more.  It’s good to sit down and write to the other person.

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sometimes these are the words we need to hear. maybe not everyday. maybe not every week or even every month. but at some point we need to hear them. sometimes we need to be reminded what it was that made this partnership work.

we need to reconnect.

life has a funny way of bringing two people together and then it is life itself that sometimes gets in the way. the life of work. the life of kids. the everyday stresses that life hands us at times feels like a giant spike that with each passing moment pushes down deeper and at times it is what drives couples apart.

this is why we need to reconnect. we need small reminders and at times we need big reminders. words written from the heart. raw and honest words to the one you’ve created this life with. the one you love. these are images and words that you can look back on when it is life itself that feels like it’s getting in the way.

these words will remind you. these words will reconnect you.

i asked them to write something. something about each other. to each other. what ever they wanted. no rules. no guidelines. just words from the heart. they have no idea what the other wrote and are reading each others words here for the first time. thank you so much to these two amazing people for allowing all of us to read their incredibly raw and honest words to each other.

this is a {re}connection session.

vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
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Ewan…You loved me at my darkest. The moments where I was cruel. Nasty. Horrible. Mean. Sick. And a million other things that no wife should be. We fought. We said things that we couldn’t take back. Yet still we loved. We bared our naked souls. We were defeated. Beaten down. Broken. I knew that we would be okay. Just not that day. Or maybe even the next one. It was a day that I thought I wanted to forget. Erase from my memory like it simply didn’t happen. But as the night turned into morning I knew it was one that I always wanted to remember. Our scars, reminding us that we are bigger than the things that have tried to hurt us. That we may be marked, but that we will always stand together and fight. For each other. And we had to fight like hell. But that battle is what made us who we are. I never want to forget. Our love is messy. Our love is chaos. Our love is raw. And pure. And real. I can’t say it’s been easy because at times it’s been fucking hard. But it’s always been worth it. Every single second. Because you are my world. My everything. And all of the cliches in romance novels you find in the grocery store check out line. Except, our love is anything from cliche. We threw out all the sappy fairy tales and made our own. We rewrote what love means. You are my home. My constant. My best friend. My everything. Without you I would wander the world lost. Searching for the place where I know I’m meant to be. I will die an old woman still as madly in love with you as the day we met. Even more. My love for you does not change. Life may sometimes get messy. Try to pull us apart. Or be downright chaotic. But until the day I die, you will always be my home. You are my love. I love you. Forever. Xo

 

vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com

Brianna…When I think about the moments where I am reminded that I love you. The moments that I think back to, and see how much I love you. They aren’t the good moments. They aren’t the happy ones. It isn’t the trip that we took together that we loved, or the success that we shared together, or buying our first home, or having our girls. Those aren’t what I think about when I think about our love. When I think about what reminds me of how gut wrenching it is to need you in my life. It is the bad moments. The moments where we reached the edge of our relationship. The moments where tears turned to cries, turned to sobs, and we just laid there together in our bed holding hands. Because it was when we were in that pit together. The one that we tried to climb out of, always falling back into. Sometimes even choosing to sit at the bottom of. That is where we truly loved each other. Because there wasn’t happiness attached to those moments. There wasn’t infatuation. There wasn’t sex tricking us into thinking everything was okay. There wasn’t this idea that we were destined to be together or that we were soul mates (you know I don’t believe in any of that). There was us, at our lowest. And I remember saying to you, “Sometimes it’s so hard. So fucking hard to care. Because it’s easier to shut down. Hide away. Find solace in being alone. But then I wake up, and I see you. And I fucking love you. And I can’t do it without you. I don’t want to.” And even as I write this, with tears in my eyes. I remember that moment. Where our love became so much bigger than the accumulation of all of the combined moments in our lives. Bigger than any idea of what it meant to be married. To be in love. It became eternal. It became my reason for being. Because life stopped being about my horrible childhood. It stopped being about my insecurities. It stopped being about feeling alone. Life became about us. You are it for me. And I can’t live without you. So when we are 90 and 92, let’s go together. Holding hands like we did that night in our bed. Telling each other “I love you. You’re my reason.” I love. Forever. xo

vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
vancouver photographer, engagement, couples, endowment lands, british columbia, forest, connection, portraits. leica, ©Gabe McClintock Photography | www.blog.gabemcclintock.com
What an incredible shoot where the set really focuses on the couple’s feelings and body language.  Just love this set.